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Aka, your extensive guide to how choose the best sex toys for you and 23 of the best vibrators, dildos, and more to *add to basket*
If you’re searching for the best sex toys, we’ve got a fun fact for you. Did you know that the sex toy industry makes nearly £12 billion yearly? According to UK sex toy stats, roughly half of you have played around with a sex toy, while an Indiana University study found that 50% of women use a vibrator regularly.
Right now, with lockdown restrictions eased, dating (and sex with someone not from your household) is back with a bang (read our top dating profile tips and what to talk about on a first date, here). Some of you may be interested in trying out a sexual fantasy (best sex toys for couples at the ready), or perhaps you’re just keen to learn how to be intimate with yourself.
Either way, you’re in the right place to find the toy to do just that. The following eighteen vibrators, dildos, and rabbits have been crowned MC’s best sex toys for a reason – through rigorous testing, they provided the best O’s. We’ve also asked an independent board of certified pros to share their take, including:
What to consider when buying the best sex toys for women:
- Type of sex toy: There are tonnes to choose from, from bullet vibrators, to rabbits, to dildos for pegging and more. Top tip: think about what turns you on and opt for a toy that sounds like it’ll do just that.
- Water resistance: Make sure you opt for a waterproof toy that’s usable for shower sessions if that’s your kind of thing.
- Noise level: Live with flatmates? It’s worth considering whether your toy will be noisy, or whether it’s best to opt for a quiet vibrator, instead.
- Energy source: Make sure you know whether your toy is battery-powered or rechargeable, the latter being better for the environment.
- Price point: Finally, make sure you set yourself a rough budget before you start shopping. Would you rather grab a bargain or invest in one of the higher price point toys?
Best sex toys, according to the experts: oral sex stimulator
1. LELO Sona 3 Cruise – £55
Good for: What promises to be a world-first clitoral suction sex toy guaranteeing orgasm without a long, frustrating build-up.
What you’re getting: A clitoral suction toy that uses the sensations of suction and vibration to really crank your orgasm up a notch.
What the experts think: Ness Cooper, a clinical sexologist who has a background in sex and relationship coaching and has reviewed sex toys for over ten years, loved that the toy is waterproof, easily rechargeable, and made from skin-friendly silicone, too – plus, noted that it’s one of the first sex toys in her ten years of testing to make her really enjoy patterned settings.
For her full expert rundown, read our LELO Sona Cruise 2 review, here.
2. LELO Sila – £115.36
Good for: Ultimate clitoral suction.
What you get: If you’re after a more soft sex toy, this SILA from LELO promises to pleasure you with gentle sonic waves and a larger mouth. Switch through eight pleasure settings and enjoy it being fully waterproof, too.
What the experts think: Scotty Unfamous, an award-winning erotic romance author and sex influencer, says: “This is one of the best clitoral suction vibes on the market.”
“The Sila has a large mouth that not only accommodates more clitoris sizes but also stimulates your clitoris both internally and externally, without making direct contact. This is made possible through LELO’s SenSonic technology, to gently bring you to a mind-blowing orgasm.”
3. Satisfyer Pro Deluxe – £27.92
Good for: A clit stimulator that uses suction technology and promises some seriously good orgasms.
What you’re getting: This little gem-shaped vibrator works hard, using sound waves and Satisfyer’s insane suction technology for an avalanche of orgasms. A little more discreet than its counterparts, it fits nicely into your hand and charges with a USB cable so you don’t have to worry about those pesky batteries.
What the experts say: Jordan Dixon, clinical psychosexual and relationship psychotherapist at The Thought House, says: “Many clients I work with have shared with me about the satisfier pro deluxe and how this feels like the closest thing to receiving really good oral sex.”
“Some say it induces such an orgasmic state that they experience multiple orgasms within minutes. I’ve yet to try it and would definitely like to give it a go at some point.”
4. LELO Ora 3 – £130
Good for: Powerful orgasms from an oh-so-small and discreet sex toy.
What you’re getting: It may look small, but don’t be fooled. LELO claims that this is ‘the world’s most intelligent oral sex simulator’ and it seems many women agree, the toy boasting many a five star review. One woman even credits the multiple vibration rotation settings for her first-ever long-awaited orgasm. It’s quick charging, offering a unique sensation and intelligent movements for an unrivaled experience.
What the reviews say: Tess says: “I love the ORA 3, it took me a bit of practice to get it right but when I did it was awesome.”
“It’s fond of like a slow build up and then, “WOW”. It is such a nice design and it’s quiet. It was a luxury self care purchase and no regrets here!”
5. The Poet – £119.00
Good for: Interchangeable clit suction guaranteed to get you off.
What you’re getting: This sex toys is a first of its kind – enter a clitorially inclusive suction vibrator that also uses air pulse technology, too. You’ll be provided with three interchangeable mouths of different sizes, all of which work for the varying different clitoris sizes, shapes, and sensitivities. 60% of women prefer clitorial stimulation, and the brand say The Poet was created and designed to satisfy these needs.
What the reviews say: Nabilah says: “Using this? Wow. All I can say is that I’m speechless and I never wanted the orgasms to stop. It took me less than 20 mins to finish a huge O.”
“It has an interchangeable head that fits into your clit and unique motions of the speeds. Squeezing the product has a different speed when you are ready to speed it up *chefs kisses*”
“As someone who has PTSD as well, I’m very uncomfortable with someone using their tongue at my clit so this new FWB of mine feels like a tongue BUT without the human attached so I could use my imagination to play with it. This is so worth it and such an investment.”
Best sex toys: Wands
6. Bed Geek Full Body Wand – £24.99
Good for: A wireless vibrating wand you can use anywhere that comes in discreet packaging, too.
What you’re getting: While most wands come with a long cable that requires a nearby plug socket, this cordless sex toy for women is chargeable and can therefore be used anywhere you like. The battery lasts for hours, and thanks to the adjustable intensities (there are twenty pulsation speeds and five patterns), you’ll definitely get the most out of it. You need never Google best sex toys again…
What the experts say: Scotty Unfamous, an award-winning erotic romance author and sexfluencer, says: “Whether you’re a beginner or you’d like to expand your toy collection without breaking the bank, the Bed Geek wands are a great way to go.”
“They’re surprisingly quiet considering how powerful they are, with a wide variety of settings that you can use all over your body – plus, they’re travel friendly, too. Great quality at a great price point.”
7. Doxy Extra Power Massager – £150
Good for: Old school Sex and the City style orgasms where you stimulate your clit with powerful vibrations.
What you’re getting: If you’re looking for stability and reliability, you can’t beat the Doxy Extra Power Massager. It’s 30 per cent more powerful than the once-famous Hitachi wand (the one Samantha raved about in Sex and the City back in the day) and has incremental speeds and pulsations, so you can keep increasing the pleasure until you reach climax. Importantly, it also has a long cable – nearly 3m long – which means you don’t need to worry about losing power while you’re using it.
What the experts say: Annabelle Knight, a sex and relationship expert, said: “With Doxy products, it is all about that one important word: POWER. They are not for the faint-hearted or for the more inexperienced sex toy user.”
“Doxys are for users that know they need to really feel the force to get off. You’ll get scintillating pleasure through the soft silicone head. Plus, fun fact: Doxy was the first to pioneer the wand vibrator, which is now one of the most important sex toy categories. For many users, they are the oldest and still the best.”
8. Lovehoney Extra Powerful Multispeed Magic Wand – £54.99
Good for: A real all-rounder from a trusted brand.
What you’re getting: With over 3,828 reviews and a solid 5-star rating, you know this one’s a good’un.
What the experts say: Aleece Fosnight, board-certified physician assistant specializing in sexual medicine and CEO of the Fosnight Center for Sexual Health says: “Nothing beats a full body massager! Utilizing this long cord, rechargeable massager on the glutes, inner thighs, and lower back with a partner (or on your own) is the perfect way to warm up the core and pelvic floor muscles for sexual play.”
“Plus, with the soft silicone massager, it is safe to place directly on the genitals when you’re ready for more orgasmic bliss.”
Best sex toys: Vibrators
9. Kip – £64.70
Good for: A soft silicone toy that’s also waterproof and spans five different power settings.
What you’re getting: American brand Dame Products has just started shipping to the UK, and its lipstick vibrator is both powerful (there are five fabulous speeds) and waterproof. Available in lemon or lavender, it’s easy to hold from many angles, has rounded edges and a soft silicone touch provide vibration with pinpoint accuracy. Even better, it’s USB rechargeable (no batteries) and comes in a travel-friendly package. Perfect for those impending UK staycays…
What the experts say: Aleece Fosnight, board-certified physician assistant specializing in sexual medicine and CEO of the Fosnight Center for Sexual Health says: “Dame’s Kip is bite-sized but with a punch. The sleek, soft silicone offers an ergonomic design for easy dexterity that can easily be used anywhere, even the shower as it is waterproof, and small enough to stow away in your luggage for a trip.”
“Plus you have 5 speeds and 5 intensities to find the perfect fit to match your body needs.”
10. Mantric Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator – £22.50
Good for: A simple, easy-to-use beginner’s toy ideal for any scenario.
What you’re getting: This powerful bullet sex toy is a Lovehoney favourite for a reason. It doesn’t vibrate, it throbs. Inside is a weighting mechanism, along with the motor, and this makes it seem like it has a mind of its own.
What the experts say: Annabelle Knight, a sex and relationship expert, says: “A bullet is the perfect starter sex toy. Discreet, not at all scary, and small enough to be carried in a handbag if you never want to be without it.”
“Bullets are all about clitoral stimulation and zoning in on your sweet spot and they provide wave after wave of pleasure. This Mantric bullet is at the luxury end of the bullet market because it looks super-classy and it delivers in spades. It will pay for itself in pleasure very quickly.”
Good for: A rabbit toy that’s good for both clitoral stimulation, penetration, and hitting your g-spot, too.
What you’re getting: If you’re looking for a sex toy for women that will hit the g-spot (and won’t cost you a fortune), look no further than the Lovehoney G-kiss vibrator. You’ll get twice the stimulation, thanks to the additional rabbit-style ears, plus it focuses on the two most important intimate areas. It’s also waterproof, so there’s the option for shower play.
What the experts say: Annabelle Knight, a sex and relationship expert, says: “This toy is essentially two-of-the-price-of-one and enables the user to cocoon their sweet spots in gorgeous sensations.”
“It is really clever – a slimline bulb internally rests against the G-spot, while its tickler flutters against the clitoris for dual-point intimate pleasure. All that fun and super affordable, too – what’s not to like!”
12. The Artist – £119.95
Good for: Seriously enhanced clitoral pleasure.
What you’re getting: The newest dual vibrator from Smile Makers and a first-of-its-kind sex toy.
What the experts say: Cecile Gasnault, brand director of Smile Makers, says: “Design the pleasure experience you want through UI/UX, ergonomics, and technology. You can finely adjust the intensity of the vibration mode by intuitively squeezing sensors on the handles rather than flipping through pre-set levels plus, you can flip through 9 pulsating effects that create feelings of movement.”
“An exciting feature is that you can control the internal and external heads independently, choosing from 4 different modes for the two heads. And lastly, the angle between the two heads can be adjusted to create an intimate fit.”
13. Amo by Hot Octopuss – £35.32
Good for: A scientifically-created sex toy with a powerful motor that promises to be whisper quiet.
What you’re getting: If you’re on the hunt for one of the best sex toys and want something that’s a little bit different, you need to try this. The design has roots in medical science research, and promises a smooth ride, being made from soft silicone. Enjoy.
What the reviews say: Harri says: “Great petite vibrator. High quality, mindful, sleek.”
14. Bijoux 21 Vibrating Diamond – £11.96
Good for: A fun take on a clitoral stimulator that’s a bargain, as well
What you’re getting: A vibrating diamond, you say? This Bijoux design is ideal for solo play or couples. It looks luxe (who doesn’t want to use a gold diamond during foreplay?) and makes it easy to target the right spot. With seven patterns and three vibration intensities, it’s a great toy for beginners looking to take sexual satisfaction to the next level. Best sex toy for couples? Sorted. If you’re keen to take it up a notch, may we suggest vibrating pants, too? You were warned.
What the review says: Salomé says: “It’s super nice, plus its appearance doesn’t make it look like an adult toy. You can have it in plain sight, and if you have visitors, they won’t even notice.”
15. The MIA 2 from LELO – £48.30
Good for: Discreet and subtle orgasms, this sex toy was designed for travelling or houses where nosey kids may root through your drawers.
What you’re getting: It’s a lipstick… or is it? This is a vibrator cunningly disguised as a lipstick. It even comes in different shades of pink and has a USB charger, so you can charge it on the go.
What the reviews say: Mia says: “I just tried it out, and it works pretty well. I like the quietness of it, and how it has different settings. I love the shape and built-in USP for charging, so I don’t have to carry a cord around with it.”
16. LELO NEA™ 2 – £49.99
Good for: Discreet but oh-so-good clit stimulation with eight different settings.
What you’re getting: This sleek rechargeable toy is what Marky Mark should have been rapping about, with eight different settings making for a night of good vibrations. Designed to be easily shared with a playmate or used on your own, it’s also waterproof if you decide to spice up shower time.
What the reviews say: Lela says: “Had my Nea for two years and it’s my favourite. No other small handheld vibrator can match its power (and I’ve probably tried at least half a dozen others).”
“The first one I bought two years ago is still going strong. Feels great in the hand. I’ve felt comfortable packing it in my carry on before because it could easily be mistaken for a computer mouse.”
17. LILY™ 2 – £76.06
Good for: An egg shaper vibrator that offers simple yet powerful clitoral stimulation.
What you’re getting: Kick all your senses into overdrive the next time you fool around with this cute scented vibrator. There are flowery scents like rose and wisteria or lavender and Manuka honey as well as a delicious Bordeaux wine and chocolate edition that’ll put an unexpected spin on playtime. Scent a big deal for turning you on? You’ll love this chocolate-scented sex toy candle.
What the reviews say: Diana says: “I wanted to spend a bit of money on a quality vibrator that had to be 1) smooth to touch and 2) USB chargeable and the Lelo Lily 2 hit the brief and the spot.”
“The Lily is a small but SUPER strong vibrator. It’s good for deep, rumble-y vibrations. It’s also great for use with a partner – it’s small and doesn’t get in the way and not so loud that it’s off-putting. I love it – powerful, small and sexy.”
18. Crescendo – £149.25
Good for: An award-winning flexible vibrator that quite literally hits *all* the spots.
What you’re getting: No playtime experience will ever be the same with this customisable vibrator, which allows you to choose and create your own vibration patterns, take into the shower, and even bend into different shapes to help you hit the right spot. This is definitely one for the technophiles, as it syncs to an app full of different vibrations depending on what kind of mood you’re in. If you’re feeling a little creative, you can also create your own good vibrations and also control where along the toy’s length you want the biggest impact.
What the reviews say: Sarah says: “My biggest issues with vibrators have always been they end up feeling like a piece of plastic inside me, never realistic or comfortable, and all that translated into me not being able to focus on having fun. Well, hello Crescendo and a serious uptick in my sexual self-care.”
“This vibrator is a perfect size, soft and 100% bendable. The vibration levels are perfect, and controlling them from my phone has been a very fun aspect for my husband. The product is worth the hype, and their customer service team is genuinely pleasant and actually helpful! You CAN NOT go wrong in ordering this bad boy! Trust me when I say, everyone needs a Crescendo in their life.”
Good for: A discreet and clever compact vibrator that’s designed for you to slip in your handbag or travel with.
What you’re getting: For the more reserved of us, the We-Vibe bullet vibrator looks like a standard lipstick (albeit, a much larger one.) So, it won’t attract as much attention if found in your bedside table because it more looks like a box, if anything. But, don’t let it’s novelty fool you – this clitoris-stimulator is powerful, and doesn’t actually have any direct contact, thanks to its hollow design, so it won’t over-stimulate you.
What the reviews say: Olivia says: “This little beauty is what you have been looking for. Though small in size, it packs the power of a mini wand and the vibrations are rumbly rather than buzzy. It’s truly a marvel how they pack that kind of power into such a small body.”
“The body of the bullet is perfectly smooth and shaped just like a lipstick. The magnetic charging base is well designed and the charging cable fits securely.”
Best sex toys: Rabbits
20. Satisfyer Mono Flex – £29.99
Good for: A simple rabbit that’ll get you off by both internal and external stimulation.
What you’re getting: The trusty old rabbit has come a long way. Not only is this Mono Flex made from super-soft silicone, it’s able to stimulate your g-spot and clitoris simultaneously and it’s actually flexible – meaning you can use it in any position that feels good for you. With a satisfying two motors for double stimulation, it’ll get you to the finish line in no time. One of the best sex toys to *add to basket* now.
What the reviews say: Bruce says: “I love this toy. It really hits all the right spots and leaves you satisfied.”
Best sex toys: Kegel balls
Good for: People keen to try kegel balls (and strengthen their pelvic floor) who haven’t tried them before.
What you’re getting: You don’t need to have watched the film or read the book to get some pleasure out of these jiggle balls. While you’re enjoying the sensation of them moving around inside you, you’ll also be giving your pelvic floor muscles a serious workout.
What the experts say: Scotty Unfamous, an award-winning erotic romance author and sexfluencer, says: “A good set of kegel balls can make a huge difference to your sex life. They tighten your pelvic floor muscles which helps you feel more during penetrative intercourse, have stronger orgasms, and are also a great way to kickstart your arousal.”
Good for: Making your O’s better in the long term.
What you’re getting: When you orgasm, your pelvic floor muscles pulse, and the stronger those muscles are, the more control you’ll have of your orgasm, giving you more powerful sensations. With a handy tag to make getting the balls out easier, these balls are like a sex workout in your pocket.
What the experts say: Annabelle Knight, a sex and relationship expert, says: “These balls are definitely not for beginners looking to strengthen their pelvic floor. They have a combined weight of 221g which gives a full and heavy sensation suited to experienced kegel ball users. They are easy to wear and can be removed thanks to a stronger silicone retrieval cord.”
“Studies show that toning the pelvic floor consistently boosts sexual happiness and leads to more intense orgasms as we age. Kegel balls are a great way to improve sexual satisfaction.”
23. LELO Hula Beads – £159
Good for: A slightly different kegel ball experience for the more advanced that allows you to try some tantalising foreplay.
What you’re getting: As the first-ever remote-controlled pleasure beads, the Hula boasts a unique design sure to get your blood racing. The beads rotate whilst vibrating, great for fun foreplay or to use for your own pleasure. One ‘satisfied’ customer said her Hula beads are ‘the best purchase [she] ever made’. Now if that doesn’t count as one of the best sex toys, we don’t know what does.
They’re also waterproof and come with a handy storage bag, so you can use your beads wherever and whenever you have the desire.
What the reviews say: Eapi says: “We love everything about it – both how it looks and what it does. It’s waterproof and easy to use anywhere. Be careful using it outside – the controller can be noisy, but this adds to the fun.”
“Insertion is easy and there is a variation of vibration styles which make this toy unique. I orgasm every time I use it! Can’t recommend it enough.”
What are the health benefits of using a sex toy?
So what’s the big deal, aside from it feeling, well, really rather good? You may be surprised to hear that the health benefits of using a sex toy are multi-faceted.
Studies suggest that investing in (and experimenting with) a sex toy can, for women:
- Ease body aches and menstrual cramps
- Assist with relaxation and deep sleep
- Reduce night sweats in menopausal ladies.
Plus a 2019 Harvard study found that sex toys can help ease vaginal atrophy, vulval or vaginal pain and vaginal tightness, which is sometimes caused by vaginismus, vulvodynia, lichen sclerosus, gynae cancer treatments, low libido and neurological conditions, such as multiple sclerosis.
Alongside the reams of health benefits of getting intimate with one of the best sex toys on the market, they can also have a positive impact on your emotional wellbeing. Reports show that using a vibrator can help promote confidence, happiness and relaxation. (Pssst: read our guide to the best masturbating techniques and tantric sex, now). The dream deal.